Three Cs for long lasting Relationships

As humans we are social animals, we love to support others and get supported on a regular basis. But at time relationships do get challenging and can take a toll on our mental, emotional and physical health, mood, or even focus on work.

Here are 3 Cs which can help in building & maintaining lifelong relationships

Commitment

Here commitment means putting each other and the relationship first. It requires a lot of giving, and maybe some sacrifices too, but the payoff is a relationship that brings true joy and fulfillment to each other’s lives. Knowing that each person is committed to working through challenges and growing together builds trust and intimacy and helps release the fears and doubts that hold us back.

Communication

Can you think about how to use communication to make other person feel needed, desired and appreciated. Communication can be verbal and non-verbal, so actions speak volumes, and remember that listening is a major component of healthy communication. It is not about what is said, but how are we saying it is more important. If two people communicate with aggression, sarcastically, use abusive language or actions, then they may need looking deeply into and is a reason for concern that might need professional intervention.

Compromise

Two people in a relationship bring individual experiences, thoughts, behaviors and personalities forward. Finding common grounds to express opinions, understanding and accepting differences and agreeing on compromise can give that even ground for a relationship to thrive. If both people feel heard and understood, it helps to prevent one person from feeling like they are giving in, which can build resentment over time. So pre deciding to listen the undesirable issues once a week may help.

Each partner brings to the relationship ways of doing things, influenced by pieces of cultures they’ve been a part of which may be religion, ethnicity, family, company, society, etc. As such, each individual brings unique strengths and difficulties to any relationship culture. Trying to blend and patchwork several ways of doing things can be tricky. To create the most intentional relationship culture that works for both requires both partners buy in to “trying on” new ways of doing things and keep an open mind toward suggestions.